From Survival-Mode to Self-Trust: A Client Story of Healing Burnout
Burned out and stuck in old coping habits? This client story shows how compassion and neuroscience can help you leave survival mode and trust yourself again. (story shared with permission)
When Heather and I first started working together, she had been living in survival mode. Busy beyond reason. Trying to be everything to everyone. Running on fumes…
Gratitude, Grief, and Real Growth.
I lost my dad in September and this is a personal reflection on gratitude, grief, and real growth. ❤️🩹
There was a time when I needed everything to BE okay in order to FEEL okay… but the work I’ve done these last few years [that all started by looking at my relationship with alcohol] has given me a different kind of strength.
Now, even in grief, even in uncertainty, I feel grounded. capable. resilient. …and I’m so thankful.
How to CHANGE your drinking before you’re READY to change your drinking.
Q: “I’ve heard you say to “start before you’re ready” but… what do you mean by that… how do I actually do that? Especially if you’re telling us NOT to stop drinking right away?”
Great question! That tip can sound counter-intuitive and, in fact: it is. It runs counter to the usual “willpower-based models” out there that tell you: if you want to change something—to simply grit your teeth and CHANGE IT. …but, that’s not how our brain works.
Watch this quick video where I explain HOW to start changing your drinking before you’re feeling ready to change your drinking…
Your mind creates your reality… and alcohol dulls your mind. (Aka: why take a break.)
Something I hear from my clients all the time—once they’ve gotten a little time under their belt alcohol-free—is variations on this theme: 👉 “Things are still hard right now, but not AS hard.”
Even just after a few weeks without alcohol in your system, you’ll feel a difference in your perspective… and this, my friend, is a dramatic improvement. When…
I’m trying to drink less, but “What if my biggest trigger is OTHER PEOPLE?”
Do you absorb other people’s emotions or “energy?” Have you ever felt your vibe shift because of another person’s mood? If this sounds familiar, you might be picking up on other people’s emotions — absorbing their energy without even realizing it. Over time, this emotional sponge effect can leave you feeling drained, anxious, or reaching for a drink to cope.
It might feel like something you can’t control, but the good news is: you can learn to protect your energy! This simple shift can make a big difference:
There hasn’t been 1 day in the last 1025 that I’ve regretted NOT drinking!
1,025 Days! This is bananas, y’all. 🍌 It feels like just yesterday I was learning to “surf urges” and make it through cravings…
But it also feels like a lifetime ago. Because, in a way—it was.
Standing here today, I feel like a completely different version of myself—still me, but lighter, brighter, more alive. I’ve been on this journey for a while, but the big shift came early…
Alcohol, mood, and anxiety… what I wish I’d known sooner.
I used to drink “at” the news. (I used to drink “at” a lot of things…) And I don’t judge myself for that. I actually have a lot of compassion for myself back then… ☺️ I mean, Of course I wanted to soothe the discomfort of seeing horrible and scary things happening in the world. Of course I wanted to find a way to feel better—to “cope.” 🗨️ But, here’s what I wish I’d known sooner…
I’m trying to cut back, but “What if my partner still drinks?”
“What if my partner still drinks?” This is one of the most common questions I get from my clients who are trying to cut back on their alcohol intake, and it was a big issue for me, personally. Listen to this quick video for my top two mindset tips to help you find your stride and achieve your goals in this alcohol-soaked-society.
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6 Ways Alcohol Affects Your Gut [NYTimes]
Drinking alcohol with meals is just a normal part of our culture, right? 🍷 There’s wine with dinner, cocktails at happy hour, or a ::toast:: with champagne… 🥂
But you know what’s another increasingly common part of life? …digestive issues. This article details…
“I’m already drinking less than I normally would—without really thinking about it!”
“I’m already drinking less than I normally would—without really thinking about it!” Some recent reviews from clients were so brilliant I just had to share: