“We cannot shame ourselves into change. We can only love ourselves into evolution.”
If beating ourselves up—judging and criticizing ourselves for all of the ways we wanted to improve—led to a successful, happy life... we wouldn't be having this conversation right now. 😅

I used to drink “at” the news.
(I used to drink “at” a lot of things…)
And I remember why.

Of course I wanted to numb this darkness… of course I wanted to seek shelter from the ugliness of the world [that seems to be growing exponentially, doesn’t it?]

It’s really hard to face.

To all the beautiful deep-thinkers and deep-feelers out there trying to cope right now,

I see you.
I’m right there with you.

But let me tell you: drinking alcohol to cope with this darkness just perpetuates the dark.

Back when I was living in burnout, I’ll be honest that I was often times drinking AT THINGS. 👈

🍷Drinking AT a stressful day.
🍷Drinking AT a frustrating conversation…

Feeling tired and resentful and wishing, WISHING things were different.

But what I’ve learned is that the chemical chain-reaction from alcohol was not only perpetuating those feelings…

It was, in fact, INTENSIFYING them. 😠

This short video might help put into context some of the more foundational pieces of this mindset puzzle.

Think of it like Habit Change 101.

Sure, making a firm decision is incredibly helpful when attempting to change your behavior—with drinking especially.

BUT.

Putting your goal too far out in front can have the opposite intended effect...